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PostPosted: Mon May 20, 2013 12:57 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Which is often wrong...

I agree with you, mostly. There's still an element of human relations, though, Nem. Not everyone likes to be told bluntly that they're only wanted for what they can do or what they can provide. Most people appreciate a more oblique approach.
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PostPosted: Mon May 20, 2013 4:51 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I think the problem is that most companies are still trying to advertise positions. The competition is no longer for workers, but for work. Companies can now just say "Wanted: Research assistant. Masters degree in marine science or related subject required, research experience preferred." and they will get a slew of applicants, but they're still stuck on the idea of persuading people they want to work for that company, when most of us just want to work.

(Incidentally, if you see this job send it my way. Please?)

I see what you mean Asa, but when you're trawling through endless job descriptions trying to find something, anything, which you can do, it would be useful to have a filing system of some kind. Even a wee table...
Job title:
Education:
Experience:
...and then a blurb about the company so we can see at a glance whether we should spend our time sifting through the misspelled, yet carefully constructed gubbins, would be much less soul-destroying.
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PostPosted: Mon May 20, 2013 10:15 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

That's true. I didn't think about the work vs worker. It's a seller's market right now, but they don't realize it. Yeah, that makes sense.
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PostPosted: Thu May 23, 2013 3:07 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sometimes living in student accommodation sucks. I will now present two case studies to back up my opinion.

Case 1: 3:30 this morning the guys from the next building decided they absolutely had to jumpstart their car right that second. Cue yelling, swearing, slamming of doors and, the cherry on the sleep-disturbing cake, beeping the horn. Why. Why would you beep the horn at 3:30 in the morning? Who are you trying to alert to your presence? EVERYONE ALREADY KNOWS. WE CAN HEAR YOU. I was at the window ready to encourage courtesy when they eventually drove off. I only hope they weren't under the influence of anything.

Case 2: Right now. I have an exam tomorrow but instead of the gentle background classical I would like to be the soundtrack of my revision, I'm treated to the thumping bass of those same guys' b****in' sound system. I would encourage courtesy again, but they're not doing anything wrong technically.

The sooner I move out of this hole the better.
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PostPosted: Thu May 23, 2013 9:55 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

*hugs*

First year in halls was very similar, so I sympathise. Maybe you can get some earplugs? I don't know how safe they are to sleep with in, but it might be worth liking into.

Hope you have a better night tonight.
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PostPosted: Fri May 24, 2013 1:34 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'm now in my second year in halls and I'm pretty sure it wasn't this loud last year. Then again it has been beautiful weather all week so we're outside as much as possible. Apparently that means music loud enough to get through my Terry Pratchett audiobook. *grumble*

Thanks for the sympathy. It's nearly over!
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PostPosted: Sun May 26, 2013 11:29 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

-sigh-

This morning my Granddad suggested that we go out for lunch tomorrow. This is good yes? This is a nice Bank Holiday treat that we should all look forward to.

No.

Itís not that simple unfortunately, if only it was as simple as Ďletís go to this restaurantí and then everybody else just said Ďyes.í If only.

First of all there are several parties involved, my grandparents who are paying but donít want to choose the restaurant, my dad, his wife, their two year old daughter, my sister and I. My grandparents wanted to leave the decision to us and by Ďusí I mean the general consensus of the group. Apparently itís nearly impossible for us to agree on something and it doesnít help that there are some restrictions. For example, my granddad canít eat meat so wherever we go has to have a good vegetarian option, and my little sister will be with us so it has to be a child friendly place. Those are fairly easy to work around but then my older sister kept adding other restrictions. ĎIt has to be local, it has to be affordable.í

We donít live in a cheap neighbourhood. We live in a fancy expensive neighbourhood where all the food is organic home grown locally sourced and raised in luxury food. And thatís great, but itís not cheap.

Every place that anyone suggested had something wrong with it. And my sister will never admit it but she does this thing where she tries to make it easier for everyone and just ends up making it so much harder. Like the restaurant being local. Thereís a lot of choice locally but itís not cheap, which was another of her restrictions, and some of it is quite exotic, my grandparents are set in their ways and wonít want to go to a more adventurous restaurant. But her insistence that it be within walking distance to make it easier for my parents to drive means that we only have a handful of places to choose from and everyone else had something to say about those places.

So every time one place was suggested it was shot down by someone else. This was my entire morning. My entire morning. We didnít settle this until 1pm. Weíd started discussing it at 10am.
This is how it went.

Me: Letís go to [local cafe]. Weíve all been there before and we like it.
Dad: I want to go to a restaurant, not a cafe.
Sister: What about [new vegetarian place]. Granddad will like that.
Dad: [Wife] doesnít like vegetarian food.
Me: What about [restaurant X]. We always enjoy it there.
Sister: Thatís too expensive.
Me: What about [restaurant Y.] Itís new, it might be nice.
Sister after looking at menu online: Itís fine as long as no-one orders: [list of food Iím not allowed to order]
That one didnít get suggested to the rest of the group.
Iím not innocent in all this. I rejected one of the places suggested because I donít like anything on the menu.

And it went on and on, getting more annoying the longer we talked about it. For example I suggested one place that weíd have to drive to, only for my sister to tell me itís too far. Then she suggested a place that is even further away than the one I just mentioned. Dad suggested and American bar and grill chain that always plays loud music. My grandma is almost deaf; she wouldnít be able to hear a thing!

Eventually we settled on a place that is expensive and far away.

And as I was typing this my sister came in to tell me that now the place we had managed to settle on is too far away because her boyfriend who I didnít know was coming with us has to be back home by 3pm. So apparently weíre going for dinner at 12:30 or something.

This is all Iíve heard about all day and no-one can agree on a thing. I donít even want to go anymore.
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PostPosted: Mon May 27, 2013 4:35 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Hate when that happens. Hope it worked out for you.
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PostPosted: Mon May 27, 2013 2:40 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thanks Asa, it turned out fine in the end and we had a good meal.

Our next big meal is father's day. This time there won't be a committee, Dad is choosing the restaurant.
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PostPosted: Mon May 27, 2013 7:27 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Oh! You might want to make a note of where you went this time in your phone or something in case you have to have the same debate again at some point. ^^;

I'm glad to hear you had fun ^_^
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PostPosted: Mon Jun 10, 2013 8:15 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Allicat wrote:
Since this thread was created off the back of something I said I feel I should use it! Here's the long vent I would have posted back then if it weren't to clog up the Today thread.

I have a friend. She is a bright, beautiful person with an absolute heart of gold and a wicked sense of humour. She never fails to make me smile, yet there are certain people who hurt her. They put her down and call her names. They never allow her to live. They are her parents. She is 19 years old and has never left the country. She has never been on a train. She has never been to the theatre. Before she stayed with me for three nights after our exams she had never stayed away from home without her mother.
I suggested that for her birthday present from me the two of us should get the train to London and go to a show on the West End. I would buy tickets and I have family there we could stay with.
Her parents refused flat out. They threw such a paddy over the idea that now she is scared to broach it again lest they should stop her coming to stay with me.
I know the reason for all this. I know her past and I can understand that her parents are more protective, but if they refuse to let her live she will die inside.
I pray that one day she will go. Get out. Leave and never come back. I am terrified that she won't.


Yes I have the same issue
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PostPosted: Wed Jun 19, 2013 11:07 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'm getting pretty tired of places wanting three years continual references with no gaps for job applications. No wonder no-one can get a blooming job. If you're unemployed, you're essentially excluded by default for a lot of things.
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PostPosted: Wed Jun 19, 2013 2:55 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'm quite worried about my chances of getting a job at the end of my studies. I have a year left where I'll be writing up and I'll have a part-time something-or-other during that time, but the job market off a MSc seems to be woeful, and anything requiring just a BSc has nothing to do with the fields I'm interested in. Short of doing teacher training (which is an absolute last resort for me) I'm not sure what I'll end up doing this time next year.
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PostPosted: Sun Aug 11, 2013 9:17 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Teacher training can be quite competitive of itself. I looked at that a while back and decided, not having a passion for dealing with kids, it wouldn't give me enough motivation.

Having a part time is a good sign though Smile

#

So, the UK's censoring pron on the internet via an opt out filter enforced at the ISP level.

I don't want to talk about the pron side of things.

What I will say, however, is that they are putting in place a technology that enables a wide range of very foolish censorship. As with most things motivated by national security or think of the children or whatever the heck, the initial justification is largely besides the point - you need to be able to vouch not just for yourself but for all the people who'll come after and use the system after you.

This is a church law, forcing your own moral leanings on people. That has rarely gone well. But that's more annoying than anything else. What's really worrying is when they start putting other things on the ticket and forming watch lists out of people who opt out - or making circumventing the filters illegal.

Part of me thinks that it's good this happens early, and in a relatively harmless form, to get people used to breaking the government's restrictions. So that we can get secure p2p infrastructure and the like in place early and get enough people using it with something popular - porn - that you can't separate out the nefarious/not agreeing with the government easily.

Another part of me's just sort of quietly weeping inside as the UK gov takes a torch to fundamental freedoms that it's doubtful will ever be clawed back.

Another part of me just adds another checkbox in the Conservatives are Evil Gits who won't be happy until we're all slaves to their messed up priesthood column. But then again you can say much the same of Labour. We don't have a moderate political option any more. The UK's always been ugly in international politics - and like all nations when deprived of a clear external threat or competition to keep it sane, it's started eating its people.

You can even see the why of it in a twisted way: They need to do something to avoid alienating the traditional support of their party, knowing that they've effectively lost those who voted for the liberal democrats. So double down with the evil and hope that works.

Yay.

I'm feel tired, wonder if this is what getting old feels like. Need to go find something to give me a laugh, laughter keeps you young Wink
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PostPosted: Sat Nov 16, 2013 1:57 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

So continuing the doctor's meds saga: He wrote me a prescription, I went to fill it, and it turns out he dated it wrong - For next month. And he forgot to write my ID number on it. The pharmacist looked at me and pointblank said, "Was he drunk?" I had to swear up and down that I was right there and watched him write it. Not only that! At my appointment last week, we talked about starting the meds, and I said, "Okay, so x dose of M______, once a day." And he jerked his head up and stared at me in horror. "No! P______, right?" He had told me M___, that's what we researched, but that's not what he prescribed, and he didn't tell me he had changed his mind. Also I left him frustrated every session so now I have to find another new doctor. Not looking forward to it. I hate making first phone calls.



Vent #2: Back in August I took a bunch of my sweaters to the dry cleaners. I finally took the last one out of the bag today to wear it - my favorite sweater, I've been looking forward to wearing it for a month. I pull it on - one of the cuffs is gone. Looks like it was unraveled, then cut off. There's at least an inch missing. I think, "Well, shucks, but at least I can put a ribbon or something around the cuffs to make them match." Then I go to close it - and all three buttons are gone. Broken right off, one of the shanks is still in the sweater. And they're custom - covered with the same weave as the sweater, special size, so way to replace them.

How can they do that? How can they do that and not tell me about it? I'm furious. That's my favorite sweater, there's no way to replace it, and they didn't own up to it when I brought it home. I'm going to talk to them tomorrow, but I don't know that anything they can offer me will make up for their mistakes in this case.

Can I have some advice please?
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